“Love Yourself Before You Can Be Loved”: The Lies We Learn

From birth, we need a caregiver in order to survive — unlike baby sea turtles, who hatch and then miraculously crawl right into the ocean all on their own. If that caregiver happens to be stable and loving, we may have the privilege of developing a secure attachment style. But studies show that about 50% of children develop a different attachment style: anxious, avoidant, or disorganized.

What does all this have to do with loving ourselves?

Well, I’m glad you asked.